Firstly, I welcome myself here on WordPress.com. This is my first blog and as usual I am in dilemma what exactly I have to write here..!! I usually write when I actually feel to and today I don’t have any such mood. But I must begin with something.
One of my best friend’s got married yesterday. I am 21 now and fortunately got an opportunity to join one of the biggest EPC’s in the world. So it is obvious that my relatives have started asking me about my marriage plans. But honestly, I have never even given a thought on it. I mean I am child now. Am I really capable of handling a whole new family? ohh C’mon, it’s just 21…!!!
My other friends are getting married soon.. most of them are enjoying the golden period of their lives before marriage, they visit their in-laws often, talk to their would be’s for hours and hours. I wonder what exactly they must be talking to a stranger..?? How to begin a talk? it’s a biggest question in my mind. In fact, when I use a public transport, I have seen many girls murmuring on their cellphone, I sometimes wonder what they actually talk in such a low voice? How can the person on other side hear what they are saying? And the most important who’s network provider? Airtel?, Idea? Reliance? Vodafone? or? Because when I speak on phone, I think the whole compartment can hear and guess exactly whom I am talking to. Is it only me who is surprised with all such things or am I still immature? I am worried now. 😦
I never fell in any love relationship till now nor I could manage time for all this from my other learning activities. My friends used to exchange greetings, flowers and usually had lot many surprises on their birthdays but I never felt the need of anyone to pamper me like this. I was happy and I still am.
It’s the universal fact that every being doesn’t always remain single. Marriage is considered an important part in every one’s life, a special moment for all who value love and believe in relationships. I very well know this and I had read lot many stories about marriages and experiences of people and their views on the marriage. One of my favorites is :
Yeah, it’s not that I didn’t like anyone till now but that liking was just a liking and… and.. just a liking up to me. That’s it!! And surely what I know that I am so choosy that I hardly liked anyone so much so that I would think of spending my whole life together with that person. I am very practical and if in future as well I happen to like anyone I will need all the courage in the world to say what I think about him… to open my mouth slowly and whisper the magical words, “ I love you..”.. Oh God..!! I wish God has written ‘Love-Arranged’ kinda marriage in my destiny where my marriage is arranged by my parents and I will fall madly in love with the one they have chosen for me. 😉 😉
Whereas, my personal views on marriage are pretty different. Marriage is not with the looks but with the compatibility. In literature, it is said that Marriage is to bind two people together, it is said to bind the two hearts together. For me it is to bind two new families together. For me it is important to look at not only the historical period, but also on the geographical location and the cultural traditions of the individuals involved in the marriage relationship. And the most important the expectation from prospective life partner. Because as soon as the wedding vows are exchanged, you’re on a different, accelerated life path and you cannot devote your whole life learning the new traditions and rituals of the family you just have entered because this time should be invested to know each others, not rituals.
Indeed it is very difficult to know the person in first instance or in just few meetings. We know each other better when we spend more and more time. And ofcourse as per Indian traditions where couples meet, ask few questions, exchange few thoughts and decide to get married within few months, it is very difficult to know each other completely. But when I will decide to get married, I want to understand, isn’t it necessary to know the basic things about our life partner before getting married? His Likes and dislikes? His food choices? what makes him happy? how to surprise him? How to show him every moment how special he is to me? It’s not limited to only my partner but also prospective in-laws as well. And I too expect the similar treatment for me and my parents from my partner and his family. I want my in-laws to love and treat me like their own daughter. 🙂 🙂
so those are just my views… let’s see what my destiny brings to me. 😛 😛
It is often said that, someone somewhere is made for you and the moment you see that person, you will feel that he is the only one you have been waiting for so long. But later we see that due to lack of understandings and mental compatibility, people move apart. So, how can we say that they are the perfect match since they haven’t given any efforts to nurture their relationship and understand each other? It is the physical attraction what makes them to get married and eventually end up in separation due to lack of wavelength match. Strange..!! Isn’t it? :O
I think, even if you’re really ready for marriage and can picture the entire rest of your lives together, it’s normal to wake up some days and think, “Holy sh*t, I’m married forever and ever??” Even if you have spent sufficient time with each other to know each other better, we may realize that even after knowing each other for so long why this relationship has become unbearable for me now? and probably this is because when two people are in infatuation (I won’t say love… initial step is not of Love.. but this infatuation when gets converted into love, Love grows with time..), they try to impress each other in all the possible ways,. They behave, they talk, they like what the other person likes and it is after marriage we get to know the real person. So it is not the spending time together but it is a commitment to understand and respect each others feelings and concerns for the life time.
I have no experience of marriage yet, not even a love relationship but I have seen several couples who are still discovering each other even after 30-40 years of marriage. And that is the actual beauty of a relationship where everyday you discover new thing about your partner. Why to go too far? see our own parents. 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂
Everyone knows marriage is a big commitment, of course it is. But even when getting married is a natural step in your happy relationship, years later when you’re more appreciative of the decades you have ahead of yourselves, you can be floored by how extraordinary it is to commit the remainder of your life to one person.
Marriages are made in heaven and love our partner endlessly, so much so that it can be enjoyed even in hell. 😛
After all it depends on finding the right person and being the right person. That’s it..!!!
I guess I have well written at my first attempt. 😛
Ms. Prajkta Waditwar 🙂